Sex, Dating, and Relationships
Sex, Dating, And Relationships has ratings and 44 reviews. Rachel said: I read this book because some high school boys we know were reading it and I. That's why I was really excited when I learned about this new book by Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas, Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A. Sex, Dating, and Relationships by Gerald Hiestand, , available at Book Depository with free delivery worldwide.
They propose a new category of relationships for singles called "dating friendships".
Sex, Dating, and Relationships : A Fresh Approach
These relationships are designed to be intentional in the same way others have talked about biblical dating, but the only difference is that the relationships also includes a level of romantic purity designed to protect both parties from becoming too emotionally attached too soon. They take their cues from the relationship between Christ and the Church.
He only has one Bride, one relationship, and one love, and that is his Church. Focusing on getting to know one another serves one purpose: If so, the man proposes and the couple gets married.
Our modern dating culture assumes that romance and dating and sometimes sexual activity is necessary for finding a spouse. But the authors present a very clear, albeit counter-cultural, approach that could save a lot of young people from unnecessary heartache.
And I would imagine it would expedite a lot of weddings, too.
Sex, Dating, And Relationships: A Fresh Approach by Gerald Hiestand
My only critique of the book was regarding their brief discussion regarding masturbation and other areas of the purity debate. They provide a helpful framework for thinking through such things, especially linking our actions to our motives and our heart. But at one point, in an attempt to encourage those who have stumbled into sexual sin, they say that we should not wallow in guilt over our failure in the area of lust and masturbation While it is true that in Christ we are no longer guilty, and that guilt can be an unhealthy obstacle to joy in Christ and his finished work.
Sometimes guilt is a good thing if it causes us to see hidden sin in our lives and drives us to repentance and faith.
- Sex, Dating, And Relationships: A Fresh Approach
- Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach
Especially in the arena of sexual purity there are some instances where the guilt is healthy and necessary for a person to begin the process of change. This section would have been served by such a clarification.
Overall, I loved this book. In fact, I'm thinking of using in my class this semester and at some point integrating it into my curriculum as required reading. It is counter-cultural, but if we are going to make any headway in this problem if sexual impurity in our churches we are going to need to do something radical, like go back to the Bible and see what God says.
Then we thought about how many of them maintained healthy and God-glorifying physical boundaries and how many had confessed that they had not. The numbers were suddenly not looking nearly so good.
This is one of those areas where contemporary Christians so often do very poorly and this is exactly why there have been so many recent books on dating, courtship, purity and all the rest. Christians are failing and desperately looking for a better way. It has been some time since I have read a book on dating and relationships, probably because it has been some time since the subject has seemed urgent to me. But recently a local pastor told me that as he pastors young adults toward marriage, he has been helped by Sex, Dating, and Relationships by Gerald Hiestand and Jay Thomas.
I decided to check it out and I am glad I did so.
You are not boyfriend and girlfriend, but friends, and you spend time together i. Thus, the main goal of a dating friendship is to explore the viability of marriage while preserving the guidelines of sexual and romantic purity required by the neighbor relationship. Integral to the argument is an understanding of how the Bible guides and restricts sexual activity.
God gives us clear sexual boundaries to guide marriage relationships sex is requiredneighbor relationships sex is forbidden and family relationships sex is forbidden.